Do you have any co-workers who are like a tractor beam trying to suck you down into their pit of misery? The people who don’t ever have anything good to say about their job/co-workers/assignments/tasks? The ones who slack off and then complain about the work like it’s really such a huge hassle to do the absolute minimum?
Oh, wait, I used to be one of those people.
If you’re like I was when I worked a corporate job, you’re probably very familiar with the why-I-hate-my-job “bitch sessions” when the boss was not around. Whether you’re initiating them (like I was) or not, you know what it feels like to be in them. In the moment, it feels liberating to find others who are just as miserable as you working a job. It’s almost cathartic to bond with someone else who fully understands your primal need to be free of your cubicle cage.
Afterwards, though, you just feel worse. You feel stuck where you are. The light at the end of your tunnel seems dimmer than before. Your energy has waned. You head for the coffee pot in an effort to store up just enough power to reach the 5 o’clock hour so you can go home and get ready to do it all over again.
As you know, misery loves company. But the truth is that being miserable or associating with other miserable people is not getting you to where you want to be in life. Despite what you might think, bitching with your co-workers, friends or family will NEVER get you closer to your goal of quitting your job.
It’s time to take all that energy that you put towards what’s not going right in your job and put it towards your goal of working for yourself. Try doing the following…
- Don’t initiate a “bitch session” with co-workers
- Don’t hang around when someone else starts to suck you into their complaining
- Don’t discuss the negative parts of your job ad-infinitum with your friends or family members
- Don’t spend time with people who drag you down
Remember that “what you focus on will come into focus”. This means that when you spend your time and energy focusing on all the negative parts about your life, you’ll just bring those parts into clearer focus and find more to complain about.
In order to get out of this unconstructive cycle, here are a few things you can do…
- Focus on the positive—write down at least 10 things every day that you like about your life and/or your job
- When other people start complaining about something, excuse yourself and go do something else
- Carry a journal with you so you can jot down business ideas at any time during the day and spend your time planning instead of complaining
- Only spend time with people who are supportive and like to engage in a positive manner
Doing this will help you move forward in a positive direction and reach your day of resignation that much faster. Happy Quitting!