Do you find yourself constantly waiting for the weekend? Waiting for vacation? Waiting for lunch break? Waiting for 5 o’clock to roll around? Waiting until you can quit? Waiting for your life to really start? Waiting, waiting, waiting.
That’s what it feels like when you’re unhappy at your job. You’re always waiting for the moments when you’re not at work and then always dreading the times when you have to go back. If you’re like me when I worked a corporate job, you’re watching the clock like a hawk as if your mere existence depends on the minute and hour hands lining up in a certain magical formation that indicates that you are at last free to go live your own life. But by that time, you’re so mentally and physically exhausted by doing work that you don’t want to do that you choose to microwave a quick dinner and plop in front of the TV, counting down the hours until you have to do it all over again.
Don’t feel that miserable? Okay, maybe that was just me. You get the idea.
My point is when you want to work for yourself and you feel stuck a job you don’t enjoy, you’re playing a waiting game. You spend each day waiting for something better. You’re waiting for the day to come when you can turn in your resignation, shout “See ya suckas!” and never look back. (Once again…maybe that was just me).
Let me tell you though, your life on this planet is INCREDIBLY SHORT. If you’re lucky, you will see a total of 75 summers, 75 winters, 75 springs and falls. In my opinion, you deserve to share your gifts, talents, and passions with the world during that time. Otherwise, what’s the point of being here?
That means if you’re staring out the window from your office (if you’re fortunate enough to have a window), watching the days and seasons pass you by, it’s time to take back control of your time and your whole life.
Here are 3 things you can do to stop playing the waiting game and really start working towards a life in which you’re your own boss…
1. Set a realistic goal to quit your job
Right now, take a moment to set a specific and realistic end goal for your current job. What has to fall into place for you to quit? Do you have to save up enough money? Pay off the car? Find a location for your retail store? Does your side business have to reach a certain income level?
Whatever that is for you, write it down and set it is as a goal. For example, “I will quit my job when I have $5000 saved up in my bank account” or “I will quit my job when I release my next record and start touring.”
It will be SO MUCH easier to get through your day at the office when you hold the end in mind and you are working towards a definite goal. Now, instead of wishfully day dreaming “I hope I’ll be able to quit this job one day”, you’ve now created a plan. Hold this goal in your mind every day and remember why you’re at your job and that it’s only temporary at this point.
2. Work on your business every single day
Now you have to work towards the goal you just created for yourself. You can’t just sit back and hope that it happens one day when all of the stars and planets align. Instead, you need to do something to work on your business every single day.
When I say “every single day”, this is exactly what I mean. I don’t mean you should work on your business when you “feel” like it or when you’re not so tired. Make an effort to do a little bit every day and it will eventually add up.
You can work on a small task such as taking your lunch break to research the XYZ software you will need to start your company or to find the office space you want to rent. Or if can be a larger task such as writing out a business plan.
Doing something for your business or next endeavor every day will help you in two ways: (1) it will allow you to steadily move towards your goal of working for yourself, and (2) it will give more meaning and purpose to every day of your life. So get rollin’!
3. Stop complaining about your current job
This is probably the toughest one. (Well, at least it was for me.) The truth is, complaining about your job isn’t going to propel you towards being your own boss any faster. In fact, what it’s doing is zapping your energy and trampling on your mood which is going to make it harder for you to work towards your goals.
You might think that focusing on the miserable parts of your job helps build that raging fire underneath you that motivates the hell out of you to quit your job. That might be true, but that fire is there whether you talk about it or not. So it’s time to stop complaining and start focusing on the positive. Focus on why you are there for the time being. Don’t get sucked into bitch sessions with co-workers or with your family. Leave that for the people that don’t have an end goal in mind like you do. You know you will only be there for a short while, so make the decision to channel ALL your energy towards what you want and NOT what you don’t want.